You are the one you have been looking for!

“You are the first example of what loving you looks like and the way you love/treat yourself, is the way world is gonna treat you.”

This post is not the preachy kind, but sort of a medicine dosage that many of us need these days. So let’s get better together!

You are not incomplete: We were born whole and we have been whole ever since !

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• We tend to feel that we need to be in relationship with someone else to feel complete. But we are not broken or fractured or only half of ourselves that we need to fill the vacant half to validate ourselves. We might be bent, injured or completely/partially screwed. Life temporarily makes us feel like we lose parts of ourselves but we are never incomplete.
• To quote Lisa Nicholas “By being everything to yourself is to understand that I am not looking for a relationship to complete me. Any relationship that I am in, is to complement my completeness. Till a very long time, I thought the other half of me was out there, or a part of me comes alive when someone else comes into my space and it took me a very long time to realize that the best thing that I can do is BE WHOLE AND COMPLETE and find someone who is whole and complete and let our completeness complement one another. But it’s my job first to find out what makes me complete emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially in relationship.
  One should always remember that we are not in this world alone, there is an interdependence experience that other people around you, get to share with you. If you have done what you need to do “WITH YOU, FOR YOU, BY YOU”, you can coexist and be in sync and harmony with those around you.
• Keeping your ‘self-worth as priority’ is not a place of self-indulgence. It’s to recognize that self-care is not selfish. It’s to recognize that you can only serve others from a full cup. And it’s your job to fill yourself up first. Fill yourself up with confidence, positivity, love, new possibility, and new opportunities. At times, just for the heck of the companionship, we engage ourselves with unworthy people/relationships. So love yourself enough to recognize your worth and to distinguish between worthy vs unnecessary, unwanted, unhealthy, toxic people in your life.
  

  
  Live For Yourself:

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* Go on adventures,

* Make short-term promises to yourself,

* Fall asleep under the stars with your friends,

* Wander around the city,

* Check out cafes,

* Go shopping,

* Join hobby classes,  

* Sit in a coffee shop on your own

* Leave notes in library books,

* Dress up for yourself,

* Give to others,

* Smile a lot.

Doesn’t this feel complete? Do all things with love, at least try to.

Don’t romanticize life. Live for yourself and learn to be happy on your own first, instead of giving that power to someone else. It isn’t any less beautiful. I promise.

Be yourself and love yourself unapologetically.

Be your own hero, be your own She-ro!