You are the first example of what loving you looks like and the way you love/treat yourself, is the way world is gonna treat you.
Love is not an emotion, it’s a way of life !
Hi, today I will start by sharing a word I recently came across and is completely worth embracing- ‘UNFUCKWITHABLE’(adj.) -when you are truly at peace with yourself and nothing anyone says or does bothers you and no negativity or drama can touch you.
This adjective has a lot to do with knowing how to love oneself.
For me it is an amazing level of awesomeness and I wish I am able to attain even a tinge of it, if not all.
Irrespective of the fact that you are single or in a relationship, before you give out love to people or expect them to love you, what you need to find is your own personal, emotional, mental ecosystem and seek peace in it. Love yourself first because that’s the closest person who you will be spending the rest of your life with.
When nobody else is there to compliment/pamper you, compliment yourself. If there is nobody to clap for you, be your own biggest fan. Wake up every morning and say” I may not be the best but I am enough”. My job is to like me first and that I am gonna bring the best version of me in every situation I can. I should like myself before anyone else likes me on Facebook or Instagram. Try telling yourself that you are always ready to bank on you, you are willing to show up for you.
Don’t look for other people to validate you. By waiting for people to validate your existence, you place your stocks and self-value in their hands -your boss, your relationships, your family and many times people who don’t even matter.
Accept and Respect yourself:
We all grow up being vulnerable to some or the other insecurities. I was in sports in school and therefore I had a weird boy cut hairstyle and stayed super tanned all the time for a very long time. I used to constantly struggle these insecurities. It took time for me to realize that it’s nobody’s business if anyone is dusky, odd heighted, too skinny or out of shape or looks a certain way? What’s important is, that one should be comfortable in holding the good and not so good parts of self, and being at peace with oneself. Acceptance would allow you to “BE” rather than repenting for “NOT BEING” something.
Take a hard look at yourself – the real you. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean you can’t change anything about yourself, it means recognizing who and what you are, and then making the most of it.
Remember that you cannot be perfect and it will be equally true to say that you cannot be a perfect disaster either.
Your true friends will accept you for what you are. Accepting oneself is about carrying your strengths with pride and strengths with humility. Close all doors for shame and guilt the world tries to pour on you. You are much more than your weaknesses. And you deserve to be happy the way you are!
Explore yourself:
Stay open to trying new things. Give yourself a thousand second chances and every time you get to 99, don’t hesitate to press reset. Embrace positivity.Love yourself enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past/present.
- Love yourself enough to set a high standard for any relationship you are in
- Love yourself enough to forgive yourself for expectation/standard you feel you will never be able to meet.
- Love yourself enough to remind yourself that you are an unique soul and a fascinating combination of thoughts, feelings, emotions.
So, next time you feel you are feeling out of sorts in terms with yourself. Try these-
Eat good breakfast, start your day good.
Dress up for yourself, Put on a kiss-ass outfit and cologne.
Buy yourself a good cup of coffee and enjoy every sip of it.
Go to work, make that money, and learn something new in the process.
Go on adventures,
Look at pictures of yourself from a few years ago and see how much of you have changed and at so many levels. Give yourself credit for all you have experienced till date
Make short-term promises to yourself
Fall asleep under the stars with your friends
Check out cafes
Go shopping
Get relaxing head massage done (my fav)
Listen to good music
Do that one thing which you have been procrastinating. Do it.
Disconnect from this world for one week. Maybe go on a trek and experience the magic.
Leave notes in library books
Say thanks to people/compliment people-giving positivity reciprocates positive vibes.
Smile a lot.
Nourish. Grow. Inspire. Self-destruction or not valuing yourself is not an option. And let every choice you make be a brick in the foundation of rebuilding yourself and taking care of yourself. Do all things with love, at least try to.
Live for yourself and learn to be happy on your own first, instead of giving that power to someone else. It isn’t any less beautiful. I promise.:)
1 day to day 1: One Infinity 
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